Dating Tips

The HairM team has put together a list of must do’s (and don’ts) that will help you be more successful with new relationships and even mature ones!

If you ask for a girl's number, use it! If you aren’t going to call then don’t ask for it. When you do call, ask her out, even if it’s just for coffee. She expects you to ask her out if you ask for her number so if you just stick to small talk on the phone you appear to be a coward or not interested.
Use the phone! It’s okay to text a girl after you meet her, but don’t ask her out on a text. If you love to text, send one the next day after meeting and say “It was great to meet you and hope to see you again soon. I’ll give you a call this week.” Then do it!
Have a plan. Women like men that take charge. If you really like her take her to dinner. Suggest a few options and let her pick. Don’t ask her to choose where you take her. Make reservations.
Dress for the date. You don’t have to wear a suit, and probably shouldn’t unless you are going to a show or event. But do have a pressed shirt and show a little style. Women love great jeans and shoes on men - invest in some!
Pack some mints and use them. Don’t chew gum.
Flowers aren’t necessary on a first date, but always appreciated. A single flower is a nice touch.
Ask her if you can pick her up. She may not be comfortable being picked up on the first date, but give her the option. Clean up your car first – inside and out!
Be on time or at least let her know if you will be late. Don’t be early.
Chivalry is not dead. Women like to be treated like women and most like to be treated like princesses! Open doors, walk on the street side, pick her up.
Tell her when you first see her that she looks “Great”, “Beautiful”, “Amazing” – but avoid “nice”. There is a difference. Although “nice” is better than nothing at all.
Don’t drive erratically and no road rage. If you are driving limit your drinks. If you want a second date you don’t want to kill your date or anyone else.
Be friendly with the hostess and wait staff, but not too friendly. Be polite.
Pull out her chair unless the host beats you to it.
Do not check your phone during your date and do not put it on the table. If you are expecting a call or need to communicate with someone excuse yourself to the restroom.
Show off your table manners. Put your napkin on your lap when you sit down. If you are seated at a formal table, remember that liquids are above your right hand and your bread plate is above your left hand. These are useful tips to remember for business dining as well.
If it's a big date or a special occasion, ask her if she would like you to order a bottle of wine. You don't need to choose the nicest bottle, but try not to pick the absolute cheapest one either. If you don't know much about wine, learn at least a few basics to avoid appearing clueless.
Ask questions and listen to her answers. Talk about yourself, but don’t monopolize or embellish. Keep it light and fun; avoid topics such as past relationships, politics and religion.
Show Confidence. Sit up straight, speak articulately, maintain eye contact and breathe. Don't be too confident and come across as arrogant and full or yourself. Modesty is always appealing.
Watch Body Language. You’ll always know how the date is going if you pay attention to her subtle signs: if she’s leaning in, eyes on you and smiling, all is well, but if she’s looking around the room and yawning, she’s bored so try spicing up the conversation or get her to talk more about herself.
When the bill comes, take it immediately if you plan on paying (and you should). The longer it sits on the table the more uncomfortable she will become wondering if you expect her to pitch in. If she offers to pay, graciously decline. Many men believe that women want to pay, as if to prove their independece. Believe us guys, 99.5% of women want their date to pick up the check.
It’s okay to allow her to pick up a round of drinks or dessert after dinner if she offers, but again she most likely would appreciate it if you declined her offer - especially on the first couple of dates.
Walk her to her car if you did not pick her up, even if she says it is not necessary.
On a first date it is not necessary to try to get in a first kiss. A hug and kiss on the cheek shows respect. If you had a good time and want to see her again, tell her so.
If the date went well, don't be shy to suggest the next date (a few days out) before you part ways.
If you’re a big fan of texting, text her after the date saying you had a great time and look forward to seeing her again.
Give compliments, but make sure they are sincere. Women never tire of hearing nice things said about them.
Women like to know you’re interested but don’t overdo it and appear needy. Keep your cool. Let her miss you just long enough. Wait too long and she may move on.

Good luck!

If you have tips for women and dating send them to datingtips@hairMgrooming.com. We will try to do our clients a favor and pass along do's and don'ts to the women too!